The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.

Quote by Albert Ellis

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I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So...

I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So...

I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19...

I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19...

I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the...

I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the...

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good...

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good...

In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that...

In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that...

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to...

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to...

People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing...

People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing...

Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because...

Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because...

If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.

If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems...

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems...

The art of love... is largely the art of persistence.

The art of love... is largely the art of persistence.

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat...

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat...

People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and...

People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and...

The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other...

If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other...

People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.

People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change...

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change...