People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.

Quote by Albert Ellis

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People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.

People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good...

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good...

Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over...

Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over...

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change...

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change...

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems...

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems...

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to...

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to...

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.

If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.

The art of love... is largely the art of persistence

The art of love... is largely the art of persistence

I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19...

I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19...

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good...

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good...

In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that...

In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that...

I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the...

I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the...

Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because...

Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because...

The art of love... is largely the art of persistence.

The art of love... is largely the art of persistence.

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other...

If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other...

I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So...

I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So...

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat...

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat...