In almost every marriage there is a selfish and an unselfish partner. A pattern is set up and soon becomes inflexible, of one person always making the demands and one person always giving way.

Quote by Iris Murdoch

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Love is the difficult realization that something other than oneself is real.

Love is the difficult realization that something other than oneself is real.

We live in a fantasy world, a world of illusion. The great task in life...

We live in a fantasy world, a world of illusion. The great task in life...

Moralistic is not moral. And as for truth - well, it's like brown - it's...

Moralistic is not moral. And as for truth - well, it's like brown - it's...

Philosophy! Empty thinking by ignorant conceited men who think they can digest without eating!

Philosophy! Empty thinking by ignorant conceited men who think they can digest without eating!

We can only learn to love by loving.

We can only learn to love by loving.

The notion that one will not survive a particular catastrophe is, in general terms, a...

The notion that one will not survive a particular catastrophe is, in general terms, a...

Every man needs two women: a quiet home-maker, and a thrilling nymph.

Every man needs two women: a quiet home-maker, and a thrilling nymph.

He was a sociologist; he had got into an intellectual muddle early on in life...

He was a sociologist; he had got into an intellectual muddle early on in life...

Falling out of love is chiefly a matter of forgetting how charming someone is.

Falling out of love is chiefly a matter of forgetting how charming someone is.

In philosophy if you aren't moving at a snail's pace you aren't moving at all.

In philosophy if you aren't moving at a snail's pace you aren't moving at all.

I see myself as Rhoda, not Mary Tyler Moore.

I see myself as Rhoda, not Mary Tyler Moore.

The cry of equality pulls everyone down.

The cry of equality pulls everyone down.

Perhaps when distant people on other planets pick up some wavelength of ours all they...

Perhaps when distant people on other planets pick up some wavelength of ours all they...

Being good is just a matter of temperament in the end.

Being good is just a matter of temperament in the end.

Art is the final cunning of the human soul which would rather do anything than...

Art is the final cunning of the human soul which would rather do anything than...

Literature could be said to be a sort of disciplined technique for arousing certain emotions.

Literature could be said to be a sort of disciplined technique for arousing certain emotions.

No love is entirely without worth, even when the frivolous calls to the frivolous and...

No love is entirely without worth, even when the frivolous calls to the frivolous and...

A bad review is even less important than whether it is raining in Patagonia.

A bad review is even less important than whether it is raining in Patagonia.

The priesthood is a marriage. People often start by falling in love, and they go...

The priesthood is a marriage. People often start by falling in love, and they go...

We shall be better prepared for the future if we see how terrible, how doomed...

We shall be better prepared for the future if we see how terrible, how doomed...