People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.

Quote by Albert Ellis

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We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change...

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change...

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good...

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good...

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems...

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems...

The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems...

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems...

I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So...

I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So...

Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over...

Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over...

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to...

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to...

People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and...

People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and...

If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other...

If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other...

People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing...

People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing...

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

The art of love... is largely the art of persistence

The art of love... is largely the art of persistence

I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the...

I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the...

In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that...

In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that...

Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.

Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because...

Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because...

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat...

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat...